It may be a tossup between Valentine’s Day and New Year’s Eve in terms of which holiday makes singles feel the loneliest”better yet, the most desperate.
Much like the way shoppers went online at the last minute to find Christmas gifts they could have shipped overnight, single desperados are logging online to make their dream of having someone to kiss at midnight Dec. 31 a reality.
Plentyoffish.com says it sees a 15% jump in signups for its free dating site this time of year, plus a 20% spike in activity from current users, “many of whom are looking for a date for New Year’s Eve,” rep Shannon Smith told NY Daily News .
Relationship expert Whitney Casey of Match.com says the time between Dec. 26 and Feb. 14 is hardcore mating season for the site’s users.
“New Year’s Eve is such a big deal because it’s a new beginning. If you’ve had a bad time dating last year, there’s just so much optimism in the air for the new one.”
That I completely understand, but its women like Heather Paul who make me a little nervous about this trend. She told the NY Daily News she found someone on ILoveYourAccent.com, a social network for American and British singles but says,”I do not care if we click, because I will keep him around until Jan. 1 so I will have someone to ring in the new year with.”
Is it that serious? I know a kiss at midnight is supposed to signify luck in love for the next 365 days, but what kind of precedent does starting off the year in desperation set? Besides, at this point, you’ve only got about five days to really feel someone out (basically see if they’re crazy or not) and that’s not a lot of time to be out with a stranger on one of the wildest nights of the year, all for the sake of not being alone. Guess what? On Jan. 2, you’ll most likely be single. Is the charade really worth it for one night?
I figure if you can make it through Christmas solo with the family asking you ever other second why you’re not married and don’t have any kids, New Year’s Eve ought to be a breeze. It’s a time to party and hang out with your closest friends, and an excuse to be flirty with someone you had a crush on but didn’t have the guts to tell in the past year. I’d much rather be kissing that guy at midnight (or no one at all) then someone I randomly picked out online to save face. But we know how holidays have a knack for making single girls feel bad about themselves for 24 hours when they otherwise wouldn’t really care.
Are you stressing over snagging a kiss at midnight for New Year’s Eve? Have you given online dating a try to bag an end-of-the-year date?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic .
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